Hey Ladies, This One’s For Us!
As women, we take on so much. The world it seems. We want to be an amazing wife, wonderful with kids, a great friend, awesome at our jobs, an incredible homemaker.
Wherever we see a need, we want to meet it. It fills some deep cry in our soul to care and nurture.
Sometimes it’s a lot of pressure to be women! Most of the time no one asks us to do the things we do. Of course, there’s unspoken pressure from outside sources, but mostly the pressure is from within us. It’s an inner standard of living that we have ingrained in our being.
You can read my disclosure here.
My darling husband sometimes says to me, “Don’t put so much pressure on yourself, it’ll all work out.” He’s right, of course, and I know it will! But sometimes I just can’t help myself from taking on more than I can handle. And then I kill myself to achieve it
Ladies we are designed to care, nurture, work hard, and excel at juggling the thousands of things on our plates! And we do it well, most of the time. Don’t forget in all the busyness it’s vital to have a little downtime every now and then. Read more about that here.
As women, we’re in touch with our soft side and are concerned with the feelings of those we love, their moods, and their happiness.
We work hard to make the world a better place.
The words of Helen Keller, a blind and deaf woman who was stopped by nothing, remind us that we can make a difference,
“When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life or in the life of another.”Helen Keller
At What Cost
There is a cost that comes with all the wonderful things we do as women. Sometimes we don’t recognize it and find ourselves frustrated and unmotivated.
The cost is that we lose ourselves. It’s so easy to lose who we are in the millions of things we do for others!
We need to keep laser-focused on what we believe our purpose is for each different situation. If we don’t then we lose confidence and become discouraged. If you’re not sure what defines your purpose read this.
Don’t Be Your Worst Enemy!
Whether we’re planning a birthday party, making our home beautiful, or preparing an amazing dinner for guests – we want it to be perfect!
I take it to the extreme! I plan every last detail. Sometimes I end up feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. It’s a good reminder, that not everything is in our control and we need to learn to let some things go.
Every now and then I worry that I’ll make a fatal mistake. I can see my “Titanic” smashing into that iceberg and sinking all my painstakingly thought out plans!
Actually, I sometimes allow myself to get a bit worked up about really “small” things. At the time, it doesn’t seem small. I could have forgotten the lemons I had planned to make iced tea with. That’s relatively unimportant, right? But when I’ve been juggling 100 things and was close to accomplishing it all as planned – it is not ok!
How am I supposed to make iced tea without lemons?! Generally, my husband will make a great practical suggestion like serving fruit juice instead which is SO simple but since I’m still mad with myself I’m not quite ready to let myself off the hook until I realize something – the guests won’t know.
They won’t know there should have been iced tea or any other detail I had so carefully planned. So my husband gets a smile and a kiss and told he’s the best before I disappear to finish the last minutes.
I sound crazy, right? Maybe I am, but I am 100% certain that somewhere out there are other women just like me.
I also know that I need to learn not to beat myself up. A little more flexibility and grace for myself would be a good thing.
It’s a daily struggle to learn all the things we should learn like being flexible. Is it just me? Please tell me some of you relate?
I always feel like the struggle shows clearly on my face when I have to change from one plan to another! It feels like my brain train was derailed, rolled a few times, and with a cloud of dust and broken metal screeched onto a different set of tracks. While that’s happening my face must be twitching like a mad person.
I can be flexible – just not with perfectly organized plans, ok?”
Sometimes when all my plans feel like they’re just not coming together I feel a bit defeated. But according to Maya Angelou, it’s not a bad thing to be defeated.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”Maya Angelou
So to follow on after Maya’s wise words let me tell you a very important fact. Pay attention to this, ok? Whether you spend all day working hard for your family, or at home raising the next generation one day at a time, or cooking meals, or cleaning your home, running errands, whatever it is – you are valuable. What you do makes a difference! Not an insignificant one a huge one.
The silent acts of a woman speak louder than words. Her efforts carry a wave of impact into the next generation.Joanna Steele
So be a wife. Be a mom. Be a career woman. Care, nurture, build lives. Make the difference only a woman can make.
Always remember by being you another light shines brightly in the world, bringing warmth and happiness. Fulfilling a purpose. And that is of great value!
I am currently learning to have patience with the one person I will not allow to make mistakes – myself. Maybe you need to be a little kinder to yourself too?
So ladies, here’s to us! We change the world a little at a time – just by being who we are.
We make it prettier, happier, and just a tad more fabulous!
Women are like any good masterpiece – a work in progress.Joanna Steele