Happy New Year’s Eve!
It’s the close of another year! I can hardly believe it. I can just hear the question on everyone’s lips, “Where has the time gone?”
However, it has gone and so we find ourselves at the end of another year!
With endings come many things and we find ourselves another year older, but the thing we all focus on is the opportunity for new beginnings.
I can picture the evenings of festivity and celebrations that are being planned to welcome in the new year!
Delicious food, good music, the smiling faces of family and friends, memories of times gone by and hope for what the new year will bring.
Glasses in hand waiting till the clock strikes midnight and the cheers ring out – Happy New Year! There will be fireworks, smiles, and kisses filled with excitement and anticipation of things to come.
Finally, the moment is gone – all it took were the seconds between 11:59 pm and 12:00 am to fling us into a time never before seen.
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Welcome to the year 2020!
It has a nice ring to it! 2020. A fresh start. I seem to have forgotten something, though? With all the endings and beginnings, festivities and laughter, food and fun, comes something else.
Our New Year’s Resolutions.
Of course, we all have an idea of what we want to change or achieve in our lives and for some reason, we all use the ending of a year and the beginning of a new one to challenge ourselves to whatever it is we want to achieve.
These are some of the most common resolutions –
- Diet or eat healthier
- Exercise more
- Lose weight
- Save more and spend less
- Learn a new skill or hobby
- Quit smoking
- Read more
- Find another job
- Drink less alcohol
- Spend more time with family and friends
According to inc.com’s article, most of us make new year resolutions but only a very few of us achieve them! That’s pretty low, right?
Somehow, it’s almost as though our resolutions are as short-lived as the seconds between the old year and the new.
So, Why Should We Ditch Our New Year Resolutions?
Also, why is it that so many of us don’t achieve them? I believe the answer lies in our ability to cope well with many small achievable goals and our general lack of ability to cope with a big unplanned one.
It’s not a failing! It’s just how we work.
The minority who do achieve their resolutions are usually people who know how to set goals and break them down into achievable steps.
I firmly believe you can achieve any goal, dream, or resolution you’ve ever had. So what I’m suggesting is that you chuck the idea that challenging yourself at midnight will give you any extra motivation to achieve anything.
Life is not the sum of one drastic decision. It is the sum of many well-made little ones.Joanna Steele
Ok, I know this is a little contradictory. On one hand, I’m telling you that I have all faith in your ability to achieve anything and on the other I’m telling you to miss the one big annual opportunity to challenge yourself to achieve more.
Let me explain. It all comes down to pressure. Pressure to change from one moment to the next. To suddenly be something you are not or live a way that you don’t without practice or knowledge of how to move forward.
If you don’t plan, you plan to fail. So don’t set yourself up to fail! That’s a tough way to start the year. Set a big goal, kill yourself for three weeks trying to achieve it, and then give up before February comes around.
What Should You Do Then?
First of all, enjoy your evening, welcome the new beginning, celebrate, decide what you want to do or change in your life in 2020. Don’t overwhelm yourself with how you need to change drastically from one day to the next.
Let the year do the changing and accept that you can do anything you want to do at any moment that you choose.
Second, tell yourself that you don’t need to wait for the year’s end to make a change.
Finally, now the pressure’s off, gather your thoughts, dreams, goals, and plans, that would have been the resolution’s that died and were buried before February, and write them all down.
Then once they’re on paper, choose the most important one and write easy, simple, daily steps to achieve it.
Every day that you achieve those steps you will feel successful and motivated to work harder! See the effect it has?
Way better than an all-in-push-till-you-give-up-plan don’t you think?
Feel The Success And Move Forward.
Before you know it, your first goal will be done! You’ll be pushing on to the next and the next! Suddenly every little thing that might have been a failed resolution will be done and you’ll be astounded by your success! So will your family and friends!
The thing with resolutions is that they require and a huge amount of effort but most of us don’t have the stamina to put out a huge amount for a long period of time.
That’s why we work well with the break-it-down-into-bite-sized-chunks technique. Then we do so much more than we ever thought we could!
Maybe you think I’m crazy because after all what would New Year’s be without resolutions? But guess what? Something in this spoke to you because you read to the end! So if you can’t do the celebrations without the resolutions, then make some.
But once you’ve eaten the food, drunk the wine, and decided on your goals for 2020 – come and read this again and use the steps to turn your resolutions into daily achievable tasks.
I warmly wish you all the very best for the year ahead and truly wish that you achieve all that you are hoping to!
Happy New Year! x